Coming Out of ShameComing Out of Shame

Offers prescriptive advice for transcending the undermining effects of shame on the personal security, mental health, and happiness of gays and lesbians

Author: Gershen Kaufman

Publisher: Doubleday Books

ISBN: UOM:49015003195675


Page: 287

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Offers prescriptive advice for transcending the undermining effects of shame on the personal security, mental health, and happiness of gays and lesbians

Gay and Lesbian Professionals in the ClosetGay and Lesbian Professionals in the Closet

Who's In, Who's Out, and Why Teresa Decrescenzo. Books. Duberman, M. (1993). ... Odd girls and twilight lovers: A history of lesbian life in twentieth century America. ... Coming out of shame: Transforming gay and lesbian lives.

Author: Teresa Decrescenzo

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 9781317957713


Page: 118

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The closet takes its toll on its dwellers through their experiences of isolation, fear, paranoia, potentially increased internalized homophobia, and dissonance between role and identity; yet many people in the helping professions do not feel that it is desirable or even appropriate to disclose their sexual orientation to those receiving help. Gay and Lesbian Professionals in the Closet explores the different positions people take on this provocative issue, the arguments they use to support their positions, and why the issue may not be as clear-cut as it sometimes seems. While complex sociopsychological factors, cultural values and influences, and legal issues keep many gays, lesbians, and bisexuals in the closet, closeted practice may have its advantages. A closeted practitioner, whether case manager, counselor, psychotherapist, physician, or minister, can bring understanding and insight to practice with homosexual clients and their families, as well as lend substantial support to openly gay and lesbian helping professionals. Yet, as Gay and Lesbian Professionals in the Closet reveals, being closeted can compromise your integrity, as well as that of your clients, and the benefits of being out will likely outweigh those of being closeted. Being out will help readers: counteract stereotypes of gays and lesbians allow you to serve as a role model improve the quality of care offered by traditionally homophobic, or homo-ignorant, institutions and employees contribute to the establishment of affirming services and environments for both yourself and your clients stop segregating your sexual life from the rest of your life attain credibility with your clients not feed repression through silence As Gay and Lesbian Professionals in the Closet will show readers, it is always important to consider patients’needs and each work setting before coming out, but gay, lesbian, and bisexual social service providers should make decisions on a case-by-case basis, not avoid being out altogether. Being open in the workplace will remind caregivers, clients, and coworkers of the exemplary citizenship and service gays, lesbians, and bisexuals are capable of offering. Think again whether the closet carries protective cover from discrimination or tacit endorsement of homophobia.

Transforming WisdomTransforming Wisdom

15–31). Minneapolis: Fortress. Kaufman, G., & Raphael, L. (1996). Coming out of shame: Transforming gay and lesbian lives. New York: Doubleday. Kundtz, D.J., & Schlager, B. S. (2007). Ministry among God's queer folk: LGBT pastoral care.

Author: Felicity Kelcourse

Publisher: Wipf and Stock Publishers

ISBN: 9781498208963


Page: 268

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Transforming Wisdom offers an extensive, multidisciplinary introduction to pastoral psychotherapy from some of the most respected practitioners in the field. With special attention to theological perspectives on the practice of psychotherapy, this collection of essays will be useful to students seeking an orientation to the art and science of pastoral psychotherapy as well as to seasoned professionals looking to refresh and renew their practice. As the subtitle, Pastoral Psychotherapy in Theological Perspective, suggests, this book is intended to represent the field of pastoral psychotherapy as a mental-health discipline that maintains intentional dialogue with its theological roots. Even as pastoral psychotherapy has developed from the ancient notion of the cure of souls to the current search for a psychology of happiness, therapists grounded in faith communities seek a practice that is respectful of all persons, mindful of the deep wisdom that emanates from the true self, or soul. While many contributors write from a psychoanalytic or psychodynamic perspective grounded in Christian theological idioms, diverse theoretical perspectives, including Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Buddhist Mindfulness, and Jungian understanding of individuation, are represented.

Affirmative Psychotherapy and Counseling for Lesbians and Gay MenAffirmative Psychotherapy and Counseling for Lesbians and Gay Men

Coming out of shame: Transforming gay and lesbian lives. New York: Doubleday. McNaught, B. (1997). Now that I'm out, what do I do? New York: St. Martin's. Vargo, M. E. (1998). Acts of disclosure: The coming-out process of contemporary ...

Author: Jeffrey N. Chernin

Publisher: SAGE

ISBN: 9780761917694


Page: 233

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Affirmative Psychotherapy and Counseling for Lesbians and Gay Men offers a broad base of research, practice, and advocacy information about the special counseling needs of gays and lesbians. Authors Jeffrey N. Chernin and Melissa R. Johnson discuss universal themes as they apply to lesbian and gay clients, as well as issues unique to lesbians and gay men, including the treatment of same-sex couples and families, ethnic minority issues, and living with HIV/AIDS. They present sensible information on how to provide a safe therapeutic environment and how to interpret and apply psychological assessments.

The Therapist s Notebook for Lesbian Gay and Bisexual ClientsThe Therapist s Notebook for Lesbian Gay and Bisexual Clients

Positively gay: New approaches to gay and lesbian life. Berkeley, CA: Celestial Arts. Kaufman, G. and Raphael, L. (1996). Coming out of shame: Transforming gay and lesbian lives. New York: Bantam Doubleday Dell Publishing Group, ...

Author: Joy S. Whitman

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 9781317760764


Page: 340

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Most therapy is set up in a heterosexist context. Explore the issues facing your gay, lesbian, and bisexual clients--and how to deal with them! The Therapist's Notebook for Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Clients offers therapists treating lesbian, gay, and bisexual clients innovative, practical interventions plus homework and hands-on activities tailored to these populations. Use the notebook to explore the issues surrounding coming out, homophobia in the workplace, spirituality, identity formation, and issues that require a non-heterosexist approach, such as domestic violence and relationship concerns. Grounded in current theory, each chapter explains the rationale for the activity it proposes, includes contraindications, and provides a list of helpful resources for therapists and clients. Here are just a few of the issues this extraordinary book explores in its four thoughtfully planned sections: Section I: Homework, Handouts, and Activities for Coming Out and Managing Homophobia and Heterosexism addresses: conflicts in self-perceptions obstacles to the growth of a healthy GLB identity dealing with the trauma and anxiety that result from discrimination using semi-hypnotic visualization to treat internalized homophobia helping bisexuals decide whether to come out or to “pass” coping with internalized homophobic messages dealing with heterosexism in the workplace or at school Section II: Homework, Handouts, and Activities for Relationship Issues will help you and your clients understand and work on issues involving: choosing the right partner intimacy and gender roles financial stability assimilation, queer pride, and everything in between how ethnicity and coupling impact sexual identity negotiating a healthy open relationship sexual concerns, sexual dysfunction, and pleasuring sexual role values for bisexual and lesbian women Section III: Homework, Handouts, and Activities for Gender, Ethnic, and Sexual Identity Issues addresses “who am I” issues: sexual orientation and gender identity the intersection of sexual and ethnic identity oppression on multiple fronts gender exploration for lesbians Section IV: Homework, Handouts, and Activities for Specific Issues tackles concepts including: enhancing resilience through spirituality reconciling with religion spiritual wellness and the spiritual autobiography body image disturbances unwanted sexual behavior creating a safety plan in case of same-sex domestic violence alienation and finding a caring community medication adherence for HIV+ clients the difficulties faced by coupled lesbians with children family care planning addiction and recovery healing from the wounds of homophobia relationships with ex-partners managing workplace stress If you're new to treating lesbian, gay, and bisexual clients you’ll find rich material, based in current literature, to guide your work. If you've already worked extensively with LGBT clients, the activities and fresh, innovative strategies in The Therapist's Notebook for Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Clients will expand and invigorate your skills.

The Morality of Gay RightsThe Morality of Gay Rights

Sandel identifies the Court's theoretical shift in Eisenstadt as a redescription of privacy rights bearers from ... of the coming out process, see Gershen Kaufman and Lev Raphael, Coming Out of Shame: Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives ...

Author: Carlos Ball

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 9781135317362


Page: 288

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In The Morality of Gay Rights, Ball presents a comprehensive exploration of the connection between gay rights and political philosophy. He discusses the writing of contemporary political and legal philosophers-including Rawls, Walzer, Nussbaum, Sandel, Rorty and Dworkin-to evaluate how their theoretical frameworks fit the specific gay rights controversies, such as same-sex marriage and parenting by lesbians and gay men, that are part of our nation's political and legal debates.

Reclaiming Your LifeReclaiming Your Life

The Gay Man's Guide To Recovery From Abuse, Addictions, And Self-defeating Behavior Rik Isensee ... See also Gershen Kaufman and Lev Raphael, Coming Out of Shame: Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives (New York: Doubleday, 1996). 3.

Author: Rik Isensee

Publisher: iUniverse

ISBN: 9780595341269


Page: 272

View: 699

Growing up gay in a homophobic culture can resemble growing up in a dysfunctional family. Reclaiming Your Life offers a soothing approach to healing from homophobic abuse, addictions, and self-defeating behavior. "If you are a gay man who grew up in a dysfunctional family or were abused, be kind to yourself and read this book. It's full of validation, understanding, common sense, and wise guidance, like a good friend." -Ellen Bass, coauthor of The Courage to Heal "a wealth of information it should be required reading for all gay men and their loved ones." -Lambda Book Report

Encyclopedia of Gay Histories and CulturesEncyclopedia of Gay Histories and Cultures

Outing is another arena in which coming out becomes intensely political. ... Outing as a political tactic has been extremely divisive within the gay and lesbian community. ... Coming Out of Shame: Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives.

Author: George Haggerty

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 9781135585136


Page: 986

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First Published in 2000. Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis, an informa company.

Divine CommunionDivine Communion

We are not the source of our own lives nor even the meaning we may wish to ascribe to life itself. ... GershenKaufman andLev Raphael,Coming Out of Shame:Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives (New York: Doubleday, 1996), 15–16.

Author: Jay Emerson Johnson

Publisher: Church Publishing, Inc.

ISBN: 9781596272538


Page: 192

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Food, sex, and God – these intertwine at the heart of Christian faith and practice. This book invites Christian communities to reflect theologically and spiritually on the desire for God and the desire for sexual intimacy as the same fundamental desire for communion. This is likewise God’s own desire to be in communion with us, which Christians celebrate whenever we share a simple meal of bread and wine at the Eucharistic table. The longing for intimacy and its disruptions echo throughout our political contestations, economic systems, racial and ethnic conflicts, and ecological crises. In no small measure, the vitality of Christian witness to the Gospel in the twenty-first century depends on exploring the depths of desire itself in the ancient hope for Divine Communion made new.

Theology Disability and Spiritual TransformationTheology Disability and Spiritual Transformation

Gershen Kaufman, Coming Out of Shame: Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives (New York: Doubleday, 1996), 63–64. 38. Ibid., 64–67. 39. Fowler, Faithful Change, 131. These “feathers” or barriers are also intergen- erational.

Author: Michael Hryniuk

Publisher: Cambria Press

ISBN: 9781604976946


Page: 315

View: 743

In this study, Michael Hryniuk develops a full phenomenological, psychological and theological account of spiritual transformation in the context of L'Arche, a federation of Christian communities that welcome persons with learning disabilities. The book begins with a critical examination of current perspectives on spiritual transformation in theology and Christian spirituality and constructs a new, foundational formulation of transformation as a shift in consciousness, identity and behavior. Through extensive analysis of the narratives of the caregiver-assistants who share life with those who are disabled, this case-study reveals an alternative vision of the "three-fold way" that unfolds through a series of profound awakenings in relationships of mutual care and presence: an awakening to the capacity to love, to bear inner anguish and darkness, and to experience radical human and divine acceptance. The book examines the psychological dimensions of spiritual transformation through the lens of contemporary affect theory and explores how care-givers experience a profound healing of shame in their felt sense of identity and self-worth.